By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
“I got married to a man who ended up marrying another woman and he rejected me with my child. I was in village; I depended on the agriculture of my husband's fields. This means that I did not have where to go and decide go back to my family.
In the Burundian tradition when you return to your family you are the shame of the family their call you “IGISUBIRAMUHIRA” meaning that you are something which returns back home. My mother told me that it is my fault: a real Burundian woman must tolerate all kinds of violence in her marriage. I thought that I supported my husband with all my strength and besides that it was he who chased me away. Then, I decided to suffer in my own family: my mother insulted me day and night and my brothers beat me and they told me that I am an incapable woman , that I came back to share their fields.
I saw that I have no future and I decided to leave my family's house without saying goodbye. I came here in Bujumbura looking for a job. I left my child with my mother; I told to myself that my mother will not mistreat my child. I work as a maid.
As s in my head was this idea that I am incapable. I had the feeling to try marriage again so that I can be accepted in my family. That’s how I married a flattering man. Arrived in his house I found that he was living in a small room with another man. We used all three to sleep on one a mattress; you cannot imagine the scenario.
He was beating, me insulting me and one day he stabbed me in the head. I bled so much that my neighbors forced him to take me to the hospital and the police jailed him.From that day he told me that he will do a bad thing to me that I'll remember all my life.
Until now I live this life it has not changed and I have to endure this to save the honor of my family. I will never divorce again”. I appreciate being here to meet people who have similar problems. I feel I'm not alone.
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