By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
Testimony 1
“My mother was a victim of GBV and abandoned me very young to marry another husband. I lived from one house to another which pushed me to get married very early without thinking much about my choice.
There were always conflicts in our house: He beat me pregnant, He brought a girl to my house and I had to leave the room to let them do what they wanted. I slept in the sitting room with my child.
One day I had just given birth to my second child and He wanted to force me to have sex, and I refused because I was not yet cured. He kicked me in the back and I fell to the ground; that's how I broke up with him.
A woman took me and gave me capital to do a small business. I worked hard and I had money to equip myself and live alone with my children.
My husband had information that I became an independent woman. Then he begged me to forgive him and I accepted to live together again. When I went to his house, the same night He stole everything I had including money and clothes. I was so traumatized that I didn't know that I went out naked to cry for help. Unfortunately we couldn't find him.
I was wondering how I'm going to start again my life and where am I going to find the money to pay for the house and do a new business. I used to cry day and night. I didn't tell anyone what I was going through. I used to see his second wife wearing my own garment and it hurt me so much.
Now I live with my two children and I try to rebuild my life, this training helped me to reflect on what traumatized me and to share it now I feel discharged.”
Testimony 2
“I legally married a man who used to beat me and stole all my crops to sell them for drinking beer and give to other women. I separated with this man and I was able to buy a plot of land and I built a small house.
I am legally married to another man and we live in my house. I was unlucky. This man is my biggest nightmare in my life; He doesn't beat me but he traumatizes me psychologically; He says bad words to me and I can't sleep. He’s always drunk, He doesn't work it's me who must work to find what we eat.
When I was preparing the meal that He didn't like, He said words to me that hurt me. He does not accept that I even go to church. Even today I lied that I went to the hospital.
I have 5 children and I'm in a dilemma; I can't divorce I'm afraid of losing my only one house that I have. My heart is bleeding I don't know what I should do.”
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