By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
Testimony 1
“I was born into a family of an irresponsible father who sold all our fields for no reason. When one of her children was sick, instead of paying for medical expenses, he used to say: “the pit to bury him is already available”
My mother was dead; He had another wife and continued to give birth while he sold all the land to cultivate.
I grew up full of bitterness I remember I wanted to go to military service with the motivation of destroying my family.
I married the first husband who abandoned me and I married the second who also rejected me.
My life is a nightmare; my 4 year old daughter was raped and I called for justice who imprisoned the author of the crime but my community turned against me and accused me to be a bad woman to mean that I could not put this man in prison. Accusations were too much for me and I was depressed; I took the road without knowing where I was going. People picked me up and brought me home.
Normally, at night I didn't sleep I had bad thoughts; sometimes I think how I can find what can kill my family or I feel I can burn my community to have peace in my heart. I can't go to church I work even on Sunday because if I don't work I can't have what to eat with my children.
I was amazed that I was able to sleep after the first day of this training and I feel my burden has become less heavy. Thank you for inviting me”.
Testimony 2
“I had a husband who doesn't love me. If I fell ill He didn’t care but I was surprised to hear him say; “give me what I eat “, when He has left nothing to eat. I had always to work to feed him.
In my marriage I spent 10 months without being pregnant and when I got pregnant my husband accused me that this pregnancy is from another man. He can't find what I can eat and I got the malnutrition disease. I decided to go back to my mother; seeing me she cried because I was very thin and my body was swollen.
My mother took care of me and I was able to have strength and health back. My husband came looking for me saying that He changed; my mother told me that I must go to try again. But He didn't change.
I remember that one day I had just given birth and I was very hungry, so I was looking for local leaders to give advice to my husband so that he can find for me something to eat but I fell down because of hunger.
After 2 years, my husband abandoned me accusing me of giving birth to a boy; He told me that in their familiesthey only give birth to girls.
That day he left me, we were in local court in the morning because I was at 8 month of pregnancy and I couldn't work. To punish me he left me and never returns. I don't know where he is now.
It was so hard for me because I went back to work in the rice fields two weeks after giving birth; my back was still weak but I was obliged to work in order to survive.
Thank you for thinking of us. I feel encouraged because I heard that there are those who live a worse life than me. This training gave me the courage to continue alone and raise my children”.
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