By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
“When I was newly married my husband used to bring women into our house. He told me to prepare them something to eat and I did it because of the fear of being beaten. I was told that the wife must bear all the evil that her husband does and I chose to endure and to be quite but I was dying inside me.
Imagine, I worked alone the whole day, and in the evening I had to prepare something to feed my husband and his girlfriend. Besides that, we slept on the same bed. I endured that too.
One day he brought a very beautiful woman and told me to prepare another room for them. I did it but it destroyed me in my heart.
He married new wives four times in our house. Once, I was at the end of my strength and I appealed to justice so that at least he builds another house for his second woman. He built the house, but He increased the punishments for me and I suffered very much.
I remember that for the fourth wife I accompanied him when he was dating. I told to myself that by doing this I could have peace in my house but in vain.
When my husband died I didn't feel anything, but I felt the burden gone because I had endured too much.
Due to this training, I heard that I am a victim because I see many signs of trauma in my life
It was an opportunity to go back and grieve; I made some decisions for my well-being.”
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