By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
My name is Diana. I'm 18 years old. I got pregnant from a biker who disappeared after finding out I was pregnant. After giving birth I waited to see my period. A man took care of me during this time and encouraged me to do the planning but I refused. We went eight months without sex. One day during conversations about postpartum sexuality with my neighborhood friends, they made fun of me saying that I don't know how to thank someone who supported me during my misery. I came here at Ntaseka clinic for counselling. The provider who welcomed me explained to me that it is not necessary to wait for menstruation after childbirth and I had the injection. Now I feel safe. I thank my friends and the Ntaseka providers who helped me to do family planning.
Dear women who are here, when you come to save your money in the self-help groups (SHGs), go to the offices of the providers to ask for all the advice on your health. It can save your life.
My name is Edith. I am 33 years old.
I have my friend who gave birth to eight children. She died after giving birth to her 8th baby. I was her companion and we were at Rugombo Hospital. It was a blow for me because since the 3rd child, I encouraged her to go to the family planning service as soon as possible after giving birth but she was lying me that she went there but fell pregnant before two years. In our conversations with others about sexuality, she shared that her beliefs and her husband did not allow her to use modern contraceptive methods. And the result was that she died on the delivery table because of blood pressure. Her blood pressure was caused by her husband because during the pregnancy, this same man impregnated 3 other girls and his wife lost her mind. Hence the hypertension on the 7 month pregnancy. We really suffered during these 2 months until we even came to Bujumbura for consultations with the Gynecologist but she ended up dying. I made the decision to inform all the girls and women I knew that every childbirth requires family planning and here at Ntaseka, they organize a lot of sessions on family planning. I want to participate in all these sessions to have a lot of information to pass on to others. I have 3 children and I support them alone because my husband did not say goodbye to me. After he left, as a member of one self-help group, I started working hard to support my children. I haven't forgotten the long-acting contraceptive method, here in Kamenge no one knows where a man can come from who can even get you pregnant and leave without saying goodbye like it happened to me. Please consult medical personnel in time. It saves women's lives. Then, you fight with the other challenges with a peaceful heart
I have suffered since my adolescence when my father wanted to rape me; that night my mother was not in the house because of conflicts between her and my father. My father came where I slept wanting to rape me and I fled outside. What traumatized me too much in this incident was seeing my father naked; He came out naked and beat me and my little sister. This affected me so much I could not tell this story to anyone.
When I got married, my husband told me clearly that He will going to have 3 children with me and that the 4th child will be from another woman. I mean, at the beginning of my marriage I already knew that He will have another wife.
After the 3rd child, I did family planning but it was too late because I was already pregnant. I have seen the worst with this pregnancy; if I told him that I felt bad, He used beat me legs up and head down. He didn't give me anything to eat. When I wanted to give birth I was afraid to tell him about it. By the grace of God I gave birth to a child with good health.
He hated my child. He never bought him clothes. When I told him to give me the money to take care of my children, He told me that He wished my children were dead.
He left me with nothing 2 years ago; He gave my plot to his second wife. Some of my children have dropped out of school because I am unable to pay for their education.
Thank you for giving us the opportunity to talk about what is cause us pain, for me this is the first time that I talk about what happened between me and my father I think my Dad is the source of my pain.
By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
By Parfaite Ntahuba | Project Leader
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